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If you’re looking to figure things out,

explore new possibilities,

or just have an understanding space

then welcome to…

Inclusive Counselling and D&D Therapy

Hi! I’m Finn-Lily [they/them]

I’m a neurodivergent multiple, neuroscience nerd, and gender-anarchist. I’m also a therapist and game designer.

I offer trauma informed counselling and therapy D&D.

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When the world demands we fit in their boxes, it gets hard to be with the parts of ourselves that we’ve had to hide, or become, in order to survive that.

As an autistic transgender system, we feel this deeply. So, I offer what’s helped us: a radically accepting, empowering and understanding space where you can freely explore who you are, or want to be, with no judgements or coercion.

Choosing your own adventure is powerful stuff, and it turns out our intrepid heroes (and antiheroes) were inside you all along.

We offer a mix of tools for inner-system teamwork, trauma recovery and game design to help you create the life you want.

Genderqueer | Autistic | Plural | Relationship Anarchist

     Personal Quests

1.  To support the queer, neurodivergent and multiple communities by offering therapy grounded in lived experience, trauma research and denormalizing “normal”

2. To create games that help people connect and create community. 

Lived Experiences

Queerness Trans-masculine / Non-binary, Bisexual, Demisexual / Aromantic, Polyamorous, Kink

Neurodivergence AuDHD, Bipolar, Multiple, Complex Trauma

Life Experience 20 years of turning ideas into reality as a video game producer

Fights for Rights Trans Rights, Decolonization, Mutual Aid, Mad Pride

come as you are,

change what you want

Specializations
  • Identity exploration ( intersections of Neurodivergence, Queerness, Gender, and the many other ways of being)
  • Inner-System communication, cooperation and community
  • Navigating Anxiety, Depression, Grief
  • Working with Complex Trauma, the spectrum of Dissociative Disorders and related experiences [DID, DDNOS, self identified multiplicity, questioning]

Offerings
  • Individual Counselling
  • D&D Therapy: Individual, Group, Relationships
  • Alternative Relationship Counselling (2 or more people) (Polyamory, ENM, Kink)
  • Therapeutic Game Design
  • Workshops about therapeutic game design, “Ask me anything” about the lived experiences of queer identity and multiplicity for allied therapists

Counselling

Book Counselling

Rates

60 Minutes $125

90 Minutes $170

Relationships (2+ people) $150

Sliding scale $30-$150+

We offer sliding scale based on a sustainable capacity. Rates above $125 help to increase this capacity.

We do direct billing with Telus Health and Sun Life and are covered by many  other insurance providers

Email us or book a free consult to discuss insurance or accessibly priced options

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Locations and Availability

Tuesdays 1:30 pm – 7:00 pm : In person at 1187 Odlum Dr, East Vancouver

Wednesdays 1:30 pm – 7:00 pm : Online

Thursdays 1:30 pm – 7:00 pm : Online or in person at 550 6th St, New Westminster

Our office is part of OneSpace, a sensory accessible workplace founded by neruodivergent women.

D&D Group Therapy

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It’s easier to face your dragons with a party by your side

Therapeutic D&D and other Tabletop Roleplaying Games (TTRPGs) offer a chance to explore things with other players dealing with similar experiences.

Each game is uniquely designed for specific topics, like identity exploration, anxiety, grief, anger, or making friends. Players will get to collaboratively design part of their game’s world and story in order to respect content boundaries.

Example:

We will always exclude the common fantasy game trope of demonizing, attacking, and pillaging ‘less civilized’ ‘races’. ( Eg – Killing goblins and taking their stuff ) 

Being aware of this colonization story and changing it in the games we play is one way players can help to decolonize games.

The stories we tell are powerful, let’s make better ones, together.

Campaigns

10 weeks | 3-hour weekly sessions | 3-4 players per group | $85 per player for each session

Single Session Games

A single 4-hour game session | 2-3 players | $90 per player

Custom Campaigns

Send us an email to have us run a custom game based on your desired length and theme. Great for team building events or community programs.

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Therapy Styles

 

Because everyone is unique and will benefit from different types of therapy, we pull from a lot of different sources. Here’s the perspectives we’re generally working from:

Inner Community and “Parts work” (Multiplicity adapted Internal Family Systems)

Whether multiple or singlet, we all have aspects of ourselves that could use a hand, and being on your own side makes life easier. We get there by working together with everyone inside, listening to what they know, how they’re trying to help, and how they can work together. It’s kind of like team building. We don’t rigidly subscribe to IFS’s concept of Core Self and we work within your own conceptualization of this.

Parts, People, “Self” and Personhood

The jury is still out on consciousness. Philosophy, psychology, neuroscience, and spiritual practices have been exploring consciousness and identity since we could think about it. We believe that to classify aspects of ourselves in rigid boundaries doesn’t reflect the nuance of experiences we see in the world. In our experience system member distinctions can range from fragments, to clusters, to parts of parts, to distinct individuals, to spiritual aspects of ‘self’ and beyond. These lines in the sand are nebulous and can change over time, especially as inner communication, connection, and co-conciousness develop. We view everyone inside as deserving of rights, respect and care. Yes, even the ones we wish weren’t around. You’re not too broken/weird/crazy/dangerous etc. 

Everyone deserves support and a space to exist.

Multiplicity Affirming Trauma Work is deeply consensual. We work with everyone in your system, honouring their boundaries and ways of doing things. We don’t see fusion as a required goal, won’t try to make anyone disappear, and don’t see anyone as more “real” than others in the system.

The primary way we work with processing traumatic experiences is using the Comprehensive Resource Model, which focuses on facilitating inner-system support and secure attachment while having multiple layers of resourcing active at once. This creates the safe-enough space for people to express and re-experience things in a way that is deeply healing. Imagine someone being with you in exactly the way you needed as you go through the hard things, that someone’s finally got you. That’s the vibe here.

Somatic, or Body Based therapy is a way of tuning into your body’s radio station/gut instincts to get information that’s harder to access through the usual talk therapy strategy. You can also think of it like being with your inner cats. How freaked out are they? What do they need to feel a bit safer or more ok? We help the body to feel a sense of safe-enough-ness in the present moment, and then we pay attention to sensations that come up and hold space for them from this safe-enough space. There’s a lot of different techniques for this, but the most important part is that we’re only going there if/when you are feeling up for it. We will never force you to feel into your body sensations if that’s not something you want to do.

Narrative Therapy puts the focus on telling your story, both where you’ve been, and where you want to go. We build on your strengths and values in a similar way to existential therapy, but we also externalize the things you’re working with. “You’re not the problem, the problem is the problem, together, let’s create a solution” This doesn’t have to involve digging through traumatic experiences. Rather, it is about looking at the stories we’ve internalized about ourselves and regaining agency to reframe and write new stories that better serve our goals. This pairs really well with TTRPG therapy.

Existential Therapy focuses on finding your inner compass.We ask the big questions in life: What’s important to you? Who do you want to be? Living in alignment with with our values gives us more agency and fulfillment. It’s the ultimate character creation.

Person-Centered Design is a style of design that emphasizes clearly defining the desired user experience (your life situation now and what you’d like it to be), generating ideas, choosing some things to try out, seeing how they go and then iterating on that design again with the new information. It’s grounded in the idea that you (the user), are the one who’s experience matters most, and that we can find unique solutions customized to your goals by experimenting, reviewing, designing and experimenting again. We essentially end up with a map and a choose-your-own-adventure style plan together. In short, this is a collaborative version of f*ck around and find out. It’s similar to Solution Focused Therapy, but bringing game design to the mix. It’s your life, why not be the designer of it?

Training and Knowledge

Plural Competency Certification

A course developed by plurals that provides insights and practical skills from lived experience, to offer more inclusive and affirming care for systems, regardless of their origin or structure.

Comprehensive Resource Model

A trauma therapy grounded in the same attachment neuroscience as Deep Brain Reorienting. It facilitates inner system communication, co-conciousness, cooperation and attachment healing by drawing from multiplicity affirming parts work, brain spotting, visualization and somatic techniques.

Linda Thai’s Certificate in Somatic Embodiment and Regulation Strategies

A decolonized, transformative justice, and deeply trauma informed program that offers somatic based tools for complex trauma.

Finding Solid Ground Program

A medical model based therapy that combines the latest neuroscience of trauma and the lived experiences of DID.  It focuses on the stabilization phase in treating Dissociative Disorders and Complex trauma.

Training and Experience
  • 20 Years of Game Design and Producing LinkedIn
  • Diploma of Counselling Therapist from Stenberg College
  • Trauma-informed Practice when Working with Complex PTSD 
  • Comprehensive Internal Family Systems Therapy
  • Janina Fisher’s Complete Trauma Immersion
  • Geek Therapy® Certified
Credentials

I am licensed with the Canadian Professional Counsellors Association, and hold the designation of Master Practitioner in Clinical Counselling (MPCC-Provisional), member #4480

To provide you with the best possible care and safety, I continue to remain under direct supervision with the CPCA, receiving guidance and feedback as I gain additional experience.

Insurance Coverage

Currently we can provide direct billing with the following insurance providers, but exact coverage depends on your insurance policy.

  • AGA Financial Group Inc.
  • Alberta Blue Cross
  • belairdirect (formerly Johnson Inc.)
  • Beneva Inc.
  • BPA – Benefit Plan Administrators
  • Canada Life
  • Canada Life – PSHCP
  • Canadian Construction Workers Union
  • Chambers of Commerce Group Insurance
  • CINUP
  • ClaimSecure
  • Coughlin &Associates Ltd.
  • Cowan
  • Desjardins Insurance
  • Equitable
  • First Canadian
  • GMS Carrier 49
  • GMS Carrier 50
  • GPM Group Benefits
  • GroupHEALTH
  • GroupSource
  • Industrial Alliance
  • Johnston Group Inc.
  • LiUNA Local 183
  • LiUNA Local 506
  • Manion
  • Manulife Financial
  • Maximum Benefit
  • MDM Insurance Services Inc.
  • People Corporation
  • RWAM Insurance Administrators
  • Simply Benefits
  • Sunlife
  • Union Benefits
  • UV Insurance

Adapting “Best Practices”

All of our knowledge and training is taken through our lens of multiplicity and decolonization. The latest ‘trauma research’, while offering some useful tools, can still miss the mark by ignoring or pathologizing lived experience. You are more than what any therapy framework or diagnosis may try to label you as.

While we may offer some concepts from these trainings, we collaboratively adapt them with you. It’s your life, we work towards your goals, honouring your lived experiences, strengths, and ways of navigating the world.

Suicidal Ideation, Self Injury

These are common ways people get through stuff when things are too much. We believe there’s no need to shame what’s keeping you going. We can talk about how you manage things, without having to focus on ‘fixing’ them, and without fear of ending up somewhere for saying the wrong thing. If this is something you’re dealing with, we’ll work with you to have a safety plan in place.

While we can’t act as a crisis line outside of session, we can offer some things that can help:  

Check out these Warm Lines at Inclusive Therapists.com for crisis support that won’t call the authorities on you.

If you don’t want to  talk to someone this 5 minute read can be helpful.

The self care game “you feel like shit” offers a choose your own adventure of prompts to help get things feeling less bad.

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Combining therapy, game design and deeply giving a f*ck to help you figure stuff out

Our practice takes place on the unceded territories of these nations:

səl̓ilwətaɁɬ təməxʷ (Tsleil-Waututh)
kʷikʷəƛ̓əm
Hul’qumi’num Treaty Group
Stz’uminus
Qayqayt
šxʷməθkʷəy̓əmaɁɬ təməxʷ (Musqueam)
Semiahmoo
Kwantlen
Cayuse, Umatilla and Walla Walla
S’ólh Téméxw (Stó:lō)

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